January 2011

Dying to look Good?

There was a shocking article in the Daily Mail today. (Nothing unusual there then?) It stated something I have believed for some time but backed it up with actual data. It was the data that was shocking. Here are just two excerpts

‘the suicide rate is up to three times higher in women who have had breast implants’.
And suicide is not the only negative outcome: ‘cosmetic surgery patients had a three-times higher rate of death due to self-destructive acts, such as binge-drinking, drug ¬overdoses and reckless driving’.

The article concluded that more people should have therapy rather than surgery. And that many, many people are deeply disappointed about the outcome.

In the light of this Daily Mail article, a Christian Radio station has asked me ‘do I think plastic surgery is intrinsically an unchristian thing to do. Interesting question!

What do you think? Do you think we should accept ourselves as we are? If we are prepared to diet to improve out appearance why not go under the knife, if we can afford it? Have you had
plastic surgery? Would you be prepared to say what you’ve had done and why?

Given that a recent study done for the Girl Guides revealed that half of secondary school girls plan to have plastic surgery, these are important questions. What would you say to your daughter if she cried herself to sleep every night over her appearance and you had in your power to ‘fix’ the problem?

I would love to hear your thoughts

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Ask Alison Winter 2011

My experiences as a relationship therapist are teaching me that just when I think I’ve got something sorted, along comes another situation that throws me! With this in mind, I’m always on the look out for simple tools to use with my clients that will help them bring about the understanding and outcomes they seek.

I recently attended a workshop by one of the country’s leading experts on relationships. He talked about his ‘Change equation’ that he uses with his couples work. I found it very simple and easy to use and am already seeing positive results. So here it is

Change =
A comittment to experimenting with difference
+ Action
+ Repetition
+ Time

So many of us want change without doing anything differently. Often we want our partners to change whilst we do nothing. I once heard some one say ‘Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results’. So if you want a difference in your relationship why not try using this equation and see what happens. If you don’t you’re likely to get the same results as you’ve always got! Don’t be insane, change!!!

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Get More Like Jesus While Watching TV

I saw Easter eggs in my local supermarket today, so Spring is definately on its way. Yes! Which means when I read the latest email from Damaris with information about their new Lent course, ‘Get More Like Jesus While Watching TV’,it all seemed to make perfect sense. Before we know it, we’ll be making pancakes and denying ourselves chocolate for weeks so, why not take a quick look now at what the Damaris team are offering this year – it looks great. A fresh new way of approaching Lent, with none of the traditional self denial. There’s more detail at – www.damaris.org/lent or get the idea by reading on.

” Lent is a time of transformation. Wouldn’t it be great if there was a Lent course that could help transform your church’s approach to outreach?

Damaris’ book ‘Get More Like Jesus While Watching TV’ argues that television is more than just chewing gum for the eyes, it’s a vital tool for us in sharing our faith with friends, family and neighbours. Applying Romans 12 to our watching habits, the book makes the case for using television both to help us grow in personal holiness and in becoming more effective in sharing our faith.

Now Damaris is producing a Lent course to build on the success of this remarkable book. There are five sessions, each including material from ‘ Get More Like Jesus While Watching TV’ together with ediscussion questions and suggested television clips for your group to watch and talk about together. Best of all, the Leader’s Guide will be available for free download from the beginning of February. Sign up to our free Damaris International News email to receive more information.

Get the book now to read it for yourself, and save money by buying for your group in packs of 10.

What do you want to do this Lent – watch TV or transform your church to share Jesus in your community? Now you can do both.”

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